Support for a Spouse Losing Weight – 2

Tuesday, August 25, 2009 22:58
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 J0440947The other day I started talking about dieting and lack of support from family and friends. Today I’ll finish up with a few more challenges and solutions.

Problem: Sometimes a spouse (or friend) is insecure about your weight loss. Are other men paying more attention to you now that you have shed some weight? Solution: This demands more heart to heart communication  assuring him (and showing him) you are still the same person you have always been and he is still the love of your life.

Problem: Sometimes a person sabotages you by offering you your special favorite foods he may be eating himself. He may be viewing this as a ”reward" for all your hard work or even his way of showing you his love. Solution: He may not honestly fully understand your weight issues. It is up to you to express how you really feel about your weight and how important the right kind of support is from him. It’s not enough just to say, “I’m on diet and I’m trying to lose weight!” You have to make him understand what it really feels like to be overweight. For example you can say, "I’m not as confident when I’m overweight…. I don’t feel as attractive as I used to…I have no energy and feel lethargic when I’m heavy,” etc. 

Give specific examples to him about what  exactly does help you, like giving you genuine compliments or helping you stay away from the more tempting choices (but not being the food police). Just remember whatever you say to the other person has to be said in calmness, love and sincerity.

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